9 Things Incredibly Attractive People Do

1. They smile ... a lot.

Incredibly attractive people love life, all aspects of it. They thrill to challenges as much as they enjoy the rewards of success. They make the most of every minute and live in the moment. They are not afraid to share their joy in their movements and on their face. Feeling unattractive? Try finding the little joys in your day and express each positive notion with a big smile. Soon people will wonder what's causing your happiness and want to join you.

2. They dress to kill.

Dressing well doesn't require a lot of money, but it does require a bit of thought andattention. Incredibly attractive people are fashion conscious not because of vanity but because they know that clothing can set the right mood and tone. They know when to dress it up or take it casual to fit their environment. You can feel a bit more together by studying up on a few fashion blogs or going shopping with a friend with good taste. Wear fashion proudly and people will notice.

3. They are careful about what comes out of their mouths.

Nothing makes pretty people ugly faster than stupid things they say. Incredibly attractive people know that you don't have to be the smartest person in the room to maintain interest, but demonstrating your ignorance is sure to push people away. Mystery and attraction go together. Given the opportunity, say enough to pique interest and always leave people wanting more of your brain.

4. They are careful about what goes into their mouths.

Not everyone can be skinny, and people of all shapes and sizes are widely considered beautiful, but incredibly attractive people manage their bodies. How and what theyeat matters to others because food is an important part of the social construct. Bad habits such as gum, cigarettes, and too much alcohol can knock attractiveness down quickly, even though people won't say anything. Don't let over indulgence and poor choices get in the way of the respect people should have for you.

5. They listen.

Many people are preoccupied with themselves and what's on their own mind. So when someone genuinely shows interest in another and listens, she immediately strengthens her connection with that person. I have personally become closer with an acquaintance through sharing an important story. Incredibly attractive people have mastered the art of listening. Try doubling your personal listening-to-talking ratio for a week and enjoy the noticeable difference.

6. They learn.

There is no question that smart is sexy and ignorance is ugly. Incredibly attractive people know you don't have to be a brainiac to maintain admiration, but it helps to be aware of current events and develop your mind. Dedicate an hour a day to making yourself smarter and watch a whole new class of people join you in discussion.

7. They take care of themselves.

It's difficult to be around people who neglect themselves. It's often a clear sign of low self-esteem. Incredibly attractive people hold themselves in high regard. They are strong in self-confidence and care about their bodies. They enjoy life and want to be around for as long as possible. Make your own body a priority. You don't have to be a perfect specimen, but good hygiene and maintenance go a long way to show people that you matter.

8. They take care of others.

A generous spirit is a huge attractor. Incredibly attractive people know that selfishness is ugliest when it's on the physically fortunate. There is something magical about genuine altruism. Give of yourself freely and the universe will embrace you and shower you with love.

9. They make others feel attractive as well.

I'm not an ugly guy but I certainly won't make the list for People magazine's Sexiest Men Alive this year. Still, when I am with incredibly attractive people I don't feel deficient. I feel like a part of the glitterati because of the way they treat me and include me in their happiness and joy of life. Each person you meet brings something special to your world. Make sure you enhance theirs with the best you have to offer.

SOURCE : http://www.inc.com/kevin-daum/9-things-incredibly-attractive-people-do.html

Learn the 7 Secrets for Building Unstoppable Confidence

1. Stop comparing yourself to others.

The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others. Remember that you're seeing the surface of their lives, not the underlying reality. Focus instead on what's important--your own strengths and goals.

2. Remember that the loudest is not the most confident.

We tend to look to the blow-your-own-horn types as the confident ones--but some of the most successful people are gentle giants, humble and self-effacing people who turn out to be the strongest, people we admire more and more as we come to appreciate their depth.

3. Keep your limiting beliefs at bay.

Even the most successful people have limiting beliefs about themselves, but the biggest difference is that they choose to focus on their strengths and possibilities instead of their limits.

4. Live in a positive reality.

Don't say anything about yourself that you don't want to become a reality. Positive thoughts and words alone won't make you a more confident person, but confident people do think a lot of positive things about themselves. Remind yourself of what you're capable of and what you've already accomplished.

5. Don't mask it.

Self-confidence isn't the impression you give others but how you feel about yourself. It's all about who you are, where you are, and where you want to be in your own life and leadership.

6. Change what you can.

Confident people know they cannot change the past, but they can change the future. They make daily choices that lead them toward the future they want to live out.

7. Be fully committed.

Be fully committed to doing whatever you can to build your success every single day, and to accepting full responsibility for your life. If it's uncomfortable, you're probably on the right track. Don't procrastinate; do what it takes without agonizing or drama.

These seven secrets can uncover your confidence from within--the kind of confidence that gives you sole responsibility for everything in your life.

SOURCE : http://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/unstoppable-confidence-learn-how-to-become-super-confident.html

Crushing Defeat and Epic Failure: Get Used to It

Show me a great entrepreneur or business leader, and I'll show you someone who has experienced disaster. It comes with the territory.

Very few people lead charmed lives. Careers, even great ones, almost never shoot straight up and to the right. Instead, they behave a lot like roller coasters, reflecting the ups and downs of eventful lives. And if you take a snapshot at any point in time, the ride may very well look as if it's going to crash.

It happens, and I'm not just talking about hurdles or obstacles, either. I'm talking about colossal flops. Crushing defeat. Devastating loss. It happens, and a lot more often than any of us would like.

Show me a great entrepreneur or business leader, and I'll show you someone who has experienced disaster. It comes with the territory. That's because successful people don't do things halfway. They're not timid. They go all in, take big risks, and fight like hell to win. And sometimes they lose, big time.

Steve Case had quite a wild ride as chief executive of AOL, but his merger with Time Warner was one of the biggest business disasters of all time.

Michael Dell turned a dorm-room business into the world's top PC maker, but since retaking the helm six years ago, he has failed to turn the stagnant company around.

Steve Jobs was famously and publicly fired from Apple, the company he co-founded.

Meg Whitman led eBay to the top of the dot-com boom but lost her bid to become governor of California despite spending $144 million of her own money. And I can't say she's doing much better at the helm of HP.

Outgoing Intel chief Paul Otellini failed to make a dent in mobile.

Former Microsoft executive Stephen Elop has been anything but a success as CEO of flagging Nokia.

As for me, I failed to turn around a high-tech start-up and filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy. I've bombed more than a few critical presentations and launched products that flopped miserably. I've lost long battles for big customers. And I've even been fired a couple of times from senior executive positions of public companies.

To say those experiences were unpleasant would be a ridiculous understatement. They were gut wrenching. And the public failures were humiliating. They tested my strength, my will, and my self-confidence. And each and every time, it took a while to get up, brush myself off, and bounce back, but I always did. I always survived to win or lose another day.

You see, when you're young and that sort of thing happens, you think you've blown it. You think your life is over. You think you'll never come back. But after you live through it a dozen times or so, a pattern emerges; a roller-coaster pattern.

Once you begin to realize the inevitability of that pattern, a funny thing starts to happen. Defeat still hurts, but you know you'll get through it and be better for it. You realize that what they say is true. That what doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

When you have a powerful desire to win but you're no longer afraid to lose, that's when life gets a lot easier. You look back and realize that you never actually lost the fearlessness of youth. It just turned into a somewhat less frenetic fearlessness of experience and maturity.

The most important thing is that you keep on riding that roller coaster--and enjoying the ride.

SOURCE : http://www.inc.com/steve-tobak/how-to-survive-the-rollercoaster-of-life.html